October 07, 2007

Thought for the Day

It's worth a lot to be in relationships with people who are capable of honesty. Not only that they're not afraid of the truth, but that they know themselves well enough to be able to know it, or at least to recognize it when it's presented to them. They can live with it and be satisfied without a lie.

What do you want? What makes you happy? What makes you unhappy, and are we talking about a fleeting annoyance or something that gripes your soul until you feel old before your time?

It isn't that a person should substitute laundry lists for getting to know someone gradually. It doesn't mean being rude or unkind. It's that even if you keep some things to yourself, knowing what you want and don't helps avoid misrepresentation. Helps you stay out of situations that were eventually going to require painful extrication. It can prevent you from making promises you were never going to keep, offers you never really wanted to fulfill.

Some people may be taken aback. That's probably for the best. Being unfaithful to yourself is exhausting.

Posted by natasha at October 7, 2007 07:00 PM | Random Mumblings | Technorati links |