December 20, 2006

Community Standards

The whole wait until you get married message has been falling on deaf ears for decades now:

... The study, examining how sexual behavior before marriage has changed over time, was based on interviews conducted with more than 38,000 people - about 33,000 of them women - in 1982, 1988, 1995 and 2002 for the federal National Survey of Family Growth. According to Finer's analysis, 99 percent of the respondents had had sex by age 44, and 95 percent had done so before marriage.

Even among a subgroup of those who abstained from sex until at least age 20, four-fifths had had premarital sex by age 44, the study found.

... The study found women virtually as likely as men to engage in premarital sex, even those born decades ago. Among women born between 1950 and 1978, at least 91 percent had had premarital sex by age 30, he said, while among those born in the 1940s, 88 percent had done so by age 44.

... Leslee Unruh, who runs a South Dakota-based organization promoting abstinence-only education, contended that increasing numbers of young people were open to remaining chaste until marriage.

Well, Ms. Unruh, enjoy working with those five percent.

When do we all get to admit that America's community standards, the trite trope used to shut down strip clubs (the passion of Seattle Mayor Greg Nickels) and adult bookstores everywhere, include premarital sex. Everybody really is doing it. Everybody. All over the place. It stands to reason that those five percent don't all live in the same spot.

The cat's out of the bag. Can we all deal with this like reasonable adults and stop lying to the kids out of some hyperinflated sense of embarassment, or what?

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Muslim Sudan declared war on Christian Ethiopia today.

Posted by: ccokz at December 21, 2006 12:09 PM

sry Somalia

Posted by: ccokz at December 21, 2006 12:23 PM

American sexuality seems to be arrested. It reflects the features of the narcisstic/neurotic form of self contrivance that is endemic here.

At the surface there is boisterous bravado absorbed from the media avalanche of commodified sexuality in a state of dynamic conflict with adherents of shriveled sexuality imposed by religions as a form of social control.

These contraries warring in each impacted being make for an arrested thing, stuck forever in middle school locker rooms.

The bravado and narcissistic baggage rises in the seduction phase only to crumble into mawkish anxiety in the fulfillment phase.

It's hard to find a more telling indice of the nations protracted adolescence when one contrasts it with the graceful and vivacious sexuality of the worlds more grown up cultures.

Could it be that the resultant dissatisfaction and frustration fuels this national drive to sadism that underpins the neo con outlook and the derangements of maniacal war visited upon hapless targets such as Iraq?

Posted by: Chris Rich at December 22, 2006 10:59 AM